If I felt 10% more......
I'd be very interested in reading what others would do if they felt 10% more significant, competent and lovable. To get us started here's what I would do....take better care of my health, ask someone out on a date, keep my place a little tidier........I could go on and on.
posted by Mark T @ 3:45 PM
3 Comments:
Okay, since I suggested that we share these thoughts I will post my contributions:
IF I FELT 10% MORE SELF SIGNIFICANT I WOULD:
Take action when I know my needs are not being met.
Have more self empathy and allow set backs to be an experience to learn from and not food for the inner critic.
Examine the benefits and drawbacks of finishing my degree.
Take some time to pursue my interest in wood working.
Give up the image of who I “should” be and embrace and honour who I am.
Finish unpacking and purchase some essentials I’ve been depriving myself of.
Learn to play the guitar
Take singing lessons.
Take better care of my body by actually doing my physiotherapy exercises rather than just thinking about them.
Remember that my feelings are something ‘I have’ and not something that ‘I am’. (‘I have sadness’ as opposed to ‘I am sad’)
Recognize when I need help and ask for it.
Do more things that scare me. (Public speaking, Implicit Career Search, Bungee naked)
IF I FELT 10% MORE SELF LIKEABLE I WOULD:
Invite more people into my life.
Accept a compliment as a compliment and not try to diminish it or see it as something else.
Accept more invitations from friends. (Dinner, visits, come stay the weekend etc)
Recognize when to listen more and talk less. (Not feel I have to say something or display my knowledge to be liked)
Write Christmas/Thank-you cards.
Contact relatives that I haven’t spoken to in years.
IF I FELT 10% MORE SELF COMPETENT I WOULD:
Put more trust in my ability to make decisions for myself.
Let myself ask questions when I don’t have the answer.
Stop making excuses and be more truthful.
Charge clients what I am worth and not short change myself on rate or hours.
Contribute some of my source code to the “open source” movement and accept the suggested changes as constructive.
Offer my opinion more when I know I have something to contribute.
Own my dream and have faith in myself to get me there.
Feel 10% more self competent. (Just checking to see if you’re still with me.)
I would declutter my place. I would give away all the things that I don't use or have room for to charity. Then I wouldn't be afraid to have people over to my place. Sounds good, I hope I am brave enough to do it soon, sounds so simple, don't know what I am afraid of.
i would ...
- take "should" out of my vocabulary more often because I just feel guilty when I use that word
- accept that I am prepared for the next steps in life and not think that I actually have a say in how things "go down"
- love my body more
- allow myself to own my new make-up and not fear that I didn't deserve it
To balance, I am grateful that:
- I have learned to ask for things that I would like
- That I stay more present and not get lost in my ego/anger - I am a calmer person
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